unfortunately, the "users" only see on side of the issue.
when a mod tries to do their job, and sees "post deleted" our hands are pretty much tied, it becomes a she said/she said thing and we can never find out if what one person says happened was actually the truth, or if they made the whole thing up to attack someone they just didnt like.
The rule was added, quite a while back, because there was an issue with a member harassing other members, using extremely transphobic and misogynistic language, and deleting their posts before any of the mods could get to see them. Because there was no logs showing what they said, there was nothing the mods could do.
The rule is vital for the mods to do their job, the ability to delete posts is not vital for posters to do theirs. I'm sure someone will come in and say that I'm saying that our needs are more important then yours or some other such BS... but for the moderatership of this community to run smoothly, we need a record of what people say so that if a rule violation does take place, the violator can't simply cover their tracks and pretend like it never happened. Such a thing has happened in the past of mtf
, it still happens in communities without that rule.... maybe if LJ allowed mods to get an email digest copy of every comment ever made on this community, so that if there was a dispute we would have a copy, then the rule would have no use... but as it is, what we see on the screen is the only record the mods have to see if anyone violated any rules. Deleting posts is basically tampering with evidence.
said, if people are really against the rule, they are welcome to go look at communities where there is no such policy, or even start their own. If someone would start a community that is as popular, helpful, supportive, safe and fun to be in as mtf
I would consider it an extremely valuable addition to LJ, and the worldwide trans community as a whole.