If it were up to us, that's exactly what would happen. Sadly, the Patriarchy had all the power, and the Medical industry takes it upon itself to police the cis population. The game is rigged and if we don't play, we don't get what we want : (
Some of us are working on the problem. You may or may not have heard of the furious controversy that surrounded the DSM V working committee appointments last year. Working against The System is a long-term project. We're a small powerless group, so we have to take things very slowly and gather allies to help us. We get one goal at a time, one place at a time and fight to prevent anything rolling back. It may be slow, but it's happening.
I didn't have the strength to come out until I was 51, so you are still ahead of me.
Second, we know instinctively what we are, and, given the chance to experiment (and to have the results accepted by society) we would be in a much better place a whole lot sooner. HOWEVER we are the fear creature that walks in the night. The contradiction to every rule that society tries to slam down our throats. Basically, we represent a total affront to the status quo.
I don't like the fact that we have to be judged as "ill" either. I'm not "Ill".
I'm simply "wrong" at the moment. A situation I am working on changing.
But, I will tell you, that a good shrink (one that, as far as a non-trans person can understand a trans person) can be helpful.
My therapist, after one month told me she'd give me the letter as soon as I wanted it. that I understood myself and my situation better then she ever could.
I've decided to stick with her after transition because she has been a blessing when it comes to helping me work through non-trans issues.
So, don't write them off.
Yeah I agree, if anything it's a medical disorder not a psychological one. It just shows that people can spend years in college and in practice and still be completely wrong about some things.
What pisses me off about it most isn't so much the medical industry's treatment of it but everyone else's. If someone were to harass someone in a wheelchair people would say wtf that's terrible. Yet having a different condition, still just as much beyond a person's control, is somehow grounds for discrimination, hate and harassment by society?
I dunno, it doesn't bother me that much... maybe because I work in the psych field. It seems to me that trans is labeled a disorder because it's different from the norm, which is true, and so they make people jump through the hoops just to make sure that they really are prepared for what they're going to do.
I know what you mean, though... I saw a story once about someone on one of those tv talk shows that felt they were supposed to have a tail, and so were having surgery to have a tail added to themselves. They didn't have to go through psychological screening... they just did it, so really it isn't fair at all.
Perfectly explained in a few sentences!
|It seems to me that trans is labeled a disorder because it's different from the norm, which is true...|
For me, that's a big problem with the medical establishment.
If the psych field wants to help people who are unable to function in society because they have problems, fine.
When they seek to reinforce societal norms by pathologizing those who fall outside those norms, and who are unable to function in society only because that society won't let them... No.
that's a good point, because certainly they always point out that, well, there's depression, and then there's depression... and there's anxiety and then there's anxiety and so forth...
Depression and anxiety are labeled as perfectly normal and part of being human, unless it gets to the point where it impinges on your ability to function in the world. Why should trans be different? As can clearly be seen here many people are actually disordered up until the point when they realize they are trans, and then they are much more able to cope with and function in the world.
Trans is different.
If I'm depressed, and cannot get out of bed/get dressed/eat/go to work then it's pretty unambiguous that I'm disordered.
If I'm trans and can function just fine in the world, then (from the DSM IV) it's pretty unambiguous that I'm disordered.
If I'm cis and can function just fine in the world, then there's no disorder.
As I stated in my previous comment, we're pathologized because society can't deal with us, not the other way round. The fourth diagnostic criterion in the DSM would be superfluous is this were not the case.
It is sad that some people wish for us to take it slow but they are trying to make sure we are truly transgender as well I suppose.
2010-09-26 01:52 am (UTC)
Here's a phrase of healing -I used to be disgusted now I try to be amused..
Congrats and my benediction upon your taking control. Many of us take longer in our lives than others to take our selves under OUR control. And thus beginning to become well- what we need to be. Anger at times can be a good mental hygiene tool. But in time, we can adopt a more sustainable sort of mindset. Amusement Vs Disgust.
The phrase is from an Elvis Costello song. It's been my mental salvation in so many ways and mayhaps it may be so for more of us. For a reason that becomes very important whilst we are finding- and becoming- our true selves. Oh, call it a deflector shield crafted from awareness. Like the awareness some of us get sooner or later that we know what we need to be- or not be. The disgust for intolerance can over time become a soft, sad amusement that we're taking control of our lives whilst "they"= the intolerants etc are controlled by wrongness.
No, it's not going to be an easy thing to apply our Humour as antidote to their hatreds. But it's a form of healing that's worked for me..
Yeah, some humour can be wry with an unkind punch line. Or be a "coping skill" humour where WE can laugh WITH each other about some shared jokes. Even if some sad, unkind punch lines of life gets misread as to who "really" gets that last laugh. I've also come to a calm acceptance that we who take control of our lives can adopt an amusement at so much of life. Including the unfunny jokes being lived by those who are unable to see that life's not needfully a zero-sum game. Which means that not every win has to cause a loss to someone else :)
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