||[Sep. 25th, 2010|01:13 pm]
Male to Female, however you choose to say it
So after 39 years of hating myself and hating everyone around me I decided to finally admit openly I am trans.|
I have set about restoring my body and mind from years of self neglect and abuse I have put myself through. I am back in college and seeing a therapist. The other day I was in my first day of class and it hits me I am no different than all these other woman. I am looking at about 39 women of every size, shape and style.
From the punk chicks to the prepy girls all of them have a unique look and style. Now here is where I get pissed.
If any of them want to change a physical feature ether through makeup, hair style, or as drastic as surgery. Our culture has no problem with it. If any of them wanted to go get some implants they need a simple consultation and then to schedule the surgery. All I want to do is the same thing. I want to make my self look like the person I am on the inside. It just takes a little more work, time and money to get the same results. So why do I need to be diagnosed with a disorder to go about it. If you ask me its our culture that has the disorder. I am just trying to be me.
I have spent most of my life trying to fit the boy mold I was shoved into and now that I finally come out I have a disorder. F*ck that! I don't have a disorder at most I have a birth defect and in my opinion thats even pushing it. So yes I am pissed off! I want to tell my therapist to get bent and just leave my head alone. I don't need a shrink I need to be me. But O no... If I want to get hormones or surgery I need to be a good little girl and play the game, wasting more of my life and money. I am done playing other peoples games by there rules. The ball is in my court now and I am going to crush that f*cker. Why does the trans community keep playing this game? Why are we not in the streets saying hay f*ck off this is my body not your body. Who are you to choose what I do with it?
So Ya I am pissed. What about you?
I dunno, it doesn't bother me that much... maybe because I work in the psych field. It seems to me that trans is labeled a disorder because it's different from the norm, which is true, and so they make people jump through the hoops just to make sure that they really are prepared for what they're going to do.
I know what you mean, though... I saw a story once about someone on one of those tv talk shows that felt they were supposed to have a tail, and so were having surgery to have a tail added to themselves. They didn't have to go through psychological screening... they just did it, so really it isn't fair at all.
Perfectly explained in a few sentences!
|It seems to me that trans is labeled a disorder because it's different from the norm, which is true...|
For me, that's a big problem with the medical establishment.
If the psych field wants to help people who are unable to function in society because they have problems, fine.
When they seek to reinforce societal norms by pathologizing those who fall outside those norms, and who are unable to function in society only because that society won't let them... No.
that's a good point, because certainly they always point out that, well, there's depression, and then there's depression... and there's anxiety and then there's anxiety and so forth...
Depression and anxiety are labeled as perfectly normal and part of being human, unless it gets to the point where it impinges on your ability to function in the world. Why should trans be different? As can clearly be seen here many people are actually disordered up until the point when they realize they are trans, and then they are much more able to cope with and function in the world.
Trans is different.
If I'm depressed, and cannot get out of bed/get dressed/eat/go to work then it's pretty unambiguous that I'm disordered.
If I'm trans and can function just fine in the world, then (from the DSM IV) it's pretty unambiguous that I'm disordered.
If I'm cis and can function just fine in the world, then there's no disorder.
As I stated in my previous comment, we're pathologized because society can't deal with us, not the other way round. The fourth diagnostic criterion in the DSM would be superfluous is this were not the case.